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Summer romances are all the rage too and I would definitely recommend them. It seems everyone I know is slowly being paired off in the best way possible. No longer do you rely solely on Casanova’s VK technique in Ziggy’s every Wednesday. Now, you sit outside in the sun spending afternoons engaged in long conversation instead of work. Showing a bit of personality at the same time never goes wrong. Firstly, she gets to know you without alcohol; secondly, you can make sure it’s the right choice to make. After all, we all know what happens when it’s a drunken pull or one night stand. So you cut out the pain in one sunlit sweep.
I’ve always found it more fun to know a girl before anything happens. The chase is everything. Sure you can chat her up in a matter of seconds in the Duchess and go for the pull, but it’s just not the same vibe. You see her in a truer light just chatting away and comfortable in each others company, rather than having your mates whispering in your ear “You pulled her yet?”. I would hope that you girls would appreciate the effort some guys put in outside of the club, and it shows us to be a little more human and seriously interested rather than the macho “job done” attitude.
I’m tired of the idea that at university ‘pulling’ is the only way forward for us. My first year has flown by and I’m just wondering where it’s got me really? It may sound a bit crazy to some but I’m wanting to settle down, get out of the standard 3 nights a week routine and spend more time with the girls I care about. So far I haven’t really had much direction with any girl I’ve liked; it’s a smile and silence when we see each other on campus or the pangs of guilt when we do chat. The pressure to perform on nights out, working the crowd, it’s all pointless in the long run. Do we really need it?
Three of my flat mates are now into relationships ranging from four months to a couple of weeks, but they all seem happy. They don’t care about mental nights out, it’s sad to see the decline of Fresher’s spirit, but surely it’s justified. They have their time together and I respect that, and if it’s going to work, you’ve got to couple-up to an extent. Relationships don’t run on thin-air. The summer has a habit of bringing out everything that’s best about university: less pressure, more chilled out, and the chance to kick back and be yourself. It’s a great atmosphere and I’ve found my niche this term. All I need now is someone to enjoy it with!
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